The new year 2019 quickly overtook the chaotic and challenging circumstances of 2018. All of a sudden, we find ourselves desperately defining the so-called ’new years‘ resolutions‘. How do we overcome as fast as possible our old, counterproductive and comfortable habits?
‚This year I definetly should do more sports, of course, I have to reduce my consumption of refined sugar, get 2 hours more sleep every night to instantly improve my inner glow and help me attract more of this adorable, positive shi*.‘
Realizing that another year just rushed by and we ‚only‘ successfully achieved a third of our To Dos we planned the year before brings up mixed feelings between panic and overactive hope.
‚Yeah, certainly this new year will be my success. My best year ever!! New year, new me.‘
Of course. Not.
Why do we always start when it’s already too late? Why do we need deadlines? And what happens in between ‚Oh yes I can‘ and ‚Oh my God, this year is already coming to an end and everyone around me is better than me and married and successful and happier and…?‘
I find myself contemplating and searching for answers.
I wouldn’t call this black gap of not knowing what and why ‚Life‘. It’s more a muddling through. We formulate our goals with a big firework and standing ovations on January 1st, but January 7th we’re trapped again. In ourselves and our familiar, cozy routines, nicely build around our mediocre life expectations that lead to an average way of living with unfulfilled dreams hidden in between all these daily spoken words.
How do we leave this cycle of constant, blind repetition? This unconscious group pressure and tacit understanding with… whom exactly?
Should we begin to skip all official events and hypes? Only presenting each other with something when we have this feeling of pleasing someone? Instead of spending a senseless amount of money, because it’s christmas?
Should we invent a personal hour everyday, excluding our mobile phones and social media presence from our thoughts and reality?
Should we start our day more conscious after waking up with a mindfulness meditation and a little bit ‚pranayama‘?
Should we say more often ‚No‘, to become more aware of our own limits and self-beliefs?
Should we replace multi-tasking and omnipresence with simplicity?
Should we rigorously clean our closet and apartment every 6 month from unnecessary, materialistic accumulation?
No matter where and how we start. The answer is only a direction, not a universally applicable ‚right or wrong‘.
Less words and more action lead to more responsability for ourselves in every dimension. Getting in touch with our deepest fragile and dark areas. Illuminating those parts, responding to majority thinking without critical reflection.
Trying to activate this quiet voice inside as a guiding compass we somewhere lost on our way.
Listening and following this discreet, influential voice, maybe representing itself by a feeling.
An emotion as a ’new years resolution‘ and sign post.
Full awareness, here and now.
A simple question on our daily check-up routine: Does my action contribute to my feeling? Yes? Go on and rise.
No? Stop it and leave it.
Simple as that.